Monday, January 31, 2011

Simple Ways of Empowering Yourself

Do you often times wake up cranky in the morning? Because you have to go to work or go to school? Do you ask why does this always happen to me? Why do people treat me this way? Why do you feel or look like crap? LOL! Seriously, do you realize they all have negative connotations?

If you do, pause for a moment and realize that if you keep thinking this way and ask questions the way you have been it really does not improve your situation, how you feel about yourself and about your life does it?

In my previous blog dated January 28 titled "Take Care of your Mind", You take care of your Life", I wrote that our brain is like a computer chip. It obeys our every command! If you ask it "why am I so fat" it will search for answers and tell you "you're fat because you are a turkey and you eat too much"! Ask and you shall receive! How about if you ask questions like "how can I make myself more thin and enjoy the process?" Ahhh... there you go! See, if you ask better questions, you get better answers. Asking "why" questions which we call "loop" questions doesn't go anywhere. It already pre-supposes a situation that is already is. Your brain searches for answers based on the type of question you ask. Sometimes it's does not even have any basis in reality. In contrast, if you ask, "what's great about my life right now"? Really think... you just don't go, let's see, well... nothing! C'mon :) really spend time for the answer. If you do, you will get precisely the answers to your question on "what's great about your life! If you want to improve the quality of your life, improve the quality of your questions.

Instead of going with the notions and motions of your routines - take charge of your steering wheel and take control! If you won't life will control you on the direction you're not satisfied anyway. Will you allow me to share with you a more effective way of improving how you feel about yourself and about your life? Try doing this simple and easy exercise with me would you? When you wake up in the morning make a habit of asking yourself at least 5 empowering questions.
For example:
- What's exciting about my job or school I have not noticed?
- What positive things will happen to me today?
- What makes me so alive this morning?
- What is wonderful with my husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, children today?
- What makes me so happy and successful today?

Just try it for 7 days and see the difference!

I shared this concept 19 years ago to a great friend of mine. We lost touch with one another for 7 years. When I saw him we had a quick lunch to catch up. The first thing he said was, besides being a great friend Victor, if there was one thing that you taught me that changed my entire life "is to ask empowering questions". He said, when he's confused or at a lost or feels he was getting complacent, he will start asking empowering questions. It worked for him. It worked for me. It will work for you!

Today, decide to EMPOWER YOURSELF!

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